Because Ive been asked, and certainly more than once
Among the current lineup of Hot-Bed issues (no pun), the topic of Gay Marriage
gets pushed front and center whenever a new and additional State signs on
to the right to marry, among Gays.
Okay for one to understand my perspectives (note the plural),
you have to first know what square I start on For my placement on
that board that square can lead one to two seemingly
opposing thoughts regarding Gay marriage. So read on, as I process it
THE SQUARE I START ON:
As of this day, I have never married. I very well could in days ahead, for
I dont entirely reject the possibility, conceptually. But once one
hits forty, without ever having a legal partner, I suppose it
could be reasoned that marriage was not near the top of my personal
To-Do list. I simply didnt prioritize it, as others often
have. And, with this, I may not have the same reverence for The
Institution that others, I know, have. From this single
square, this longtime, Living in Sin perspective, I can yield
two somewhat different positions
It seems to me that as long as all legal and civil matters are tended to,
then Civil Unions should suffice even though Im not
entirely sure if hetero couples living in sin have
ever asked or have been granted similar considerations. I
dont actually know (Mental note to self: Investigate this). This, naturally
coming from a Living in Sin perspective, from those times that
Ive done so.
But I already know that my Gay friends would counter, Joseph
to simply suffice is simply not sufficient ... and further
implies a second-class citizenry with a different set of considerations,
from the start, where we should be entirely satisfied and content
with the sufficient. And as I ponder
what would be this likely argument from my Gay friends, the thing
Theyd be right.
Which leads me to yet another perspective if one could call
it a perspective, per se
I really dont care If my Gay friends (all
Gays, indeed) want to marry, I say, go ahead knock yourselves out.
Hell, Ill even attend your weddings because, as Gays, I know that the
food just has to be bitchin at the reception To which
my Gay friends would protest, Joseph, your smart little remarks aside
to simply not care is every bit as bad as the
sentiments of those who directly oppose us, and our desire to marry.
And the thing is
Theyd be right.
So, Ill say this I have a residence in the very first
American state to make Gay marriage legal. And, as I look around me
People still scurry off to work, they watch their baseball, pick up the
groceries, children go to school and play. Despite a long list of problems
in Massachusetts many, indeed, at the hand of my own liberalism
Gay marriage is seemingly not among them. There is no fall of Rome, and no
deviant sex orgies, homo or hetero for I would surely
know about those. In fact, if oddly, theres not even a smattering
of point to evidence that Gay marriage even exists
in the state. Im sorry people, but I just cant see the harm
literally anywhere. Life is seemingly just as it was before.
As a further consideration, we on the hetero side more generally perceive
Gays in one of two ways: The flamboyant parade and the
pornographic. Indeed, many among us outside of the Gays, themselves
dont see the homosexual in emotional terms that
they, too, could love as genuinely and as profoundly as the
rest of us. For no emotion can possibly be genuine when
its tied to emotional illness, as thought by many.
How incredibly wrong.
In truth, I see this article as a mere lead-in for another commentary
that expressed support for Gay marriage much better that I could better,
in fact, that Ive heard from most Gays
It is, indeed, from Keith Olbermann Yes, I know that my conservative
readers are rolling their eyes back in their heads. But the rational among
you know that whether you agree with Olbermann or not his
commentaries are extremely well written, structured, and presented.
In fact, what follows I consider to be among his best often times,
his most emotional perhaps, even poignant. I dont expect that
it will change the minds of those most vehemently opposed to Gay marriage,
for there are no words for them. But, at the least, perhaps
Olbermann will give you some points to ponder even if he doesnt
ultimately compel. If you choose to be entirely dismissive, do so
at the peril of your own integrity not as a partisan, not as a person
of faith, not as a heterosexual, but as a human being